Saturday, March 30, 2013
It is a reflection of the grief and torment the author was feeling, after the loss of his 4 month old son. I felt like I was reading through his diary and at times snooping through his personal life. The writing is very raw, vulnerable and transparent. At times, his honesty made me uncomfortable, but I find it hard to critique a book that is about a family's grief.
I wasn't sure how I felt when I turned the last page. I wasn't inspired, nor did I feel more hopeful. I felt incredibly sad for their loss.
About The Book:
When Mike Stavlund's four-month-old son suddenly died, a flood of cards, flowers, meals, phone calls, and gifts let his family know that they were loved and cared for. What was less welcome were the books, and particularly the religious ones. Often impossibly upbeat, saccharine sweet, and with all kinds of confident promises, they increased the pain rather than soothing it. Though Mike could plainly see that these writers meant well, their preoccupation with defending pristine ideas about God from the suddenly obvious truth of God's unkindness created a cognitive dissonance of such scale that he simply put them away. They were too painful to read and too offensive to bear.
Instead he wrote his own book, one week at a time during that first terrible year. A book that embraced the stark reality of loss, the sense of alienation from all of life, the feelings of suffocation at the hands of the well-meaning people gathered around, and the new awareness of feeling abandoned by God. "A Force of Will" helps anyone who is going through difficulty to honestly confront their feelings without being made to feel guilty. With heartfelt honesty, Mike shows that there is hope--even when there is no happy ending.
Disclosure of Material Connection:
I received this book free for review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.